Teenage is always a tricky age. It is not only difficult for the children to deal with but also a challenge for parents. They have to be very watchful when it comes to dealing with their children who are in a very fragile state. They demand attention, advice, care and affection but not like a regular kid. They also desire independence. They are in a state when they are surrounded with self doubt and they are looking for answers for questions. Parents and teenage often have clashes because even though parents have good intentions, they still end up creating some kind of difference in their relationships because they are not aware how to deal with children of this age bracket.
To help teenager parents who have good intentions but are not aware how to deal with their growing children, we have come up with this post including some parenting tips which can be of great help to them.
Always Be Supportive
If your teenage child shares some of his problem with you then that doesn’t mean that he wants you to go out and fight for him. He might just want you to know what is happening in his life and expects you support him when you he needs you. Parents with an intention to help their children, sometimes end up ruining everything. Ask him if he needs your help and then act.
Being a Good Listener is All They Want
Not each and every time your teenager kid wants you to solve his problem. Sometimes he just wants you to listen what he has to share. For kids, it is like a way to vent out their thoughts and emotions. Parents should understand that every time giving advice to their children is not a good idea and it can affect their relationship. Your kid is growing, allow him to grow.
Let Him Live in the Present
Most of the parents create an imaginary world around their teenager children. If they will not study, they will not get good mark. If they will not get good marks, they will not get a good job….. so on and so forth. Though you intend to make your child more responsible and focused but what you are actually doing is that you are not letting him enjoy his present and asking him to live in the fear of future. This way your child will never be able to live his life in the present day.
Give Him The Freedom to Choose His Career
Adolescence is the time when children pick up their careers. Most of the children have already made up their minds what they want to pursue and therefore, they miss on exploring various other choices which could actually be very beneficial for them. It is for parents to understand that their children need to be given all the freedom to explore what is the best career choice for them. It is their career and they have the right and responsibility to take up a career which they like. Influence of parents, in any form, is not right. Parents should support and guide not lead them.
Have Faith in Your Teenager Kid
If you would ask parents, all of them would say that they trust their children but out of those only a very few actually do that. Though we are all very confident of the kind of upbringing we have given them but we still are not ready to trust their decisions, allow them to be on their own. Our possessiveness and protective attitude towards them doesn’t let them grow. And they also start to feel that they are not being trusted.
These are some of the parenting tips that are very important for teenager parents. If you are one then you must follow these guidelines not only to have better relationship with your adolescent kid but also help him have a better life.